Will society realize that they are driven by the hierarchy system on a daily basis?
I try very hard to not let people judge me on unimportant basis of life factors. When I am successful with this, it’s nice knowing that people won’t put me into one of these categories: dating status, living status, school, age or income. These categories come from questions that are asked at almost all networking event, any night out or when you meet a new friend.
Is it just me, or have you also noticed that when you talk to someone new you are asked at least 1 of these 4 questions:
Where do you live?/Where are you from?
What do you do?
What school do you go to?
- Are you single?
- How old are you?
Depending on your answer, they will categorize you in a specific social class, which clearly shows how attached we are to a hierarchal system of social status. Answering any of these five questions forms an assumption which then determines how you are treated. From your answers, they will treat you accordingly. We could argue that they are simply trying to get to know you, but if you think about it for a minute, doesn’t this concept make you question otherwise? Why do they need to know those questions to get to know me? How are they relevant to the true person I am?
I personally hate being judged based on any of the five questions above. The answer to those questions do not define who I am as a person, nor do they define my values, goals and achievements. Being asked those questions leave too much room for my answers to constitute judgement on me that would most likely be false. No thank you!
If all we can come up with are one of those four questions to start a conversation, our society is struggling, struggling to connect with one another, and struggling with the need to classify each other into social categories.
Let me break it down into an example. I could tell you “I’m 27, live in a penthouse in the rich suburbs of West Vancouver,” and you’d be super impressed, think I’m successful, and maybe want to be friends with me. I mean, why would you not want to hang out with a successful person? However, do you really know the truth? Do you really know that my parents bought it for me? or that I’ve never paid for anything in my entire life? or that I’ve never had to make money because my parents have always always supported me? If I had said more than “I’m 27 & live in a penthouse”, I’d be judged as a spoiled brat. Maybe people would want to just use me because of what I have instead of being friends with me for who I am. Am I hitting a target or?
From where I live and my age, you could of assumed that I am at the top of the hierarchy system. However once you found out why I live there, everything you would of assumed wasn’t the truth. This is why those questions don’t help to make a profile out of someone you don’t know.
My fun challenge to our society is to try to come up with new questions to ‘get to know’ someone (which will impress them because they are used to the basics), and if someone asks you one of the basic questions, have some fun and mess around with them. Especially if you know you won’t see them again. Let’s play their game!
P.S. I am not 27, nor do I live in a penthouse. Maybe soon, just not yet!